Finding the right partner. It can feel like an impossible feat at times. How do you find the right partner? How do you even know that they are the right partner for you? Our relationship expert says that these are five clues to know if you have found the right partner.
If you have found a partner, well done- you are halfway there. But is that person the right person for you? If you are single, we know the dating world can feel like a minefield, with the games and rules it can be easy to feel lost. You’d think the challenges would stop once you meet somebody but alas this is not always the case. With so much choice in the world and where it is so accessible (with tinder and social media just at your fingertips) people are sometimes tempted to know, is there someone better out there for me?
SO how do you know if your partner is the right partner for you?
Clue number one:
When you are out in a public place, are you looking around at other people wondering if they are attractive and who else is out there? If not, this is a good sign that you are happy with the partner that you have.
Clue number two: Do you feel held back in any way? Do you feel you have to keep a part of yourself secret or put your career on hold in some way because your partner does not support you? If you are feeling held back in any way, it may be a good idea to consider whether that person is the right partner for you.
Clue number three:
Do they fit in well in your life? Do they feel compatible in your day to day? Do they get along with the people in your life and do you feel that you fit together in this way? If you have some common interests and can have a great time together this is a good sign. If not, maybe they are not the right one for you.
How else can you tell that they are a good partner for you?
Clue number 4:
They listen to you and care about what you are saying. They make time to show you that you are important to them and they value your thoughts. If they are dismissing your words and not paying attention or showing an interest, it could be a clear sign that they are not the right partner for you.
Clue number five:
They comfort you when you are sad. This seems like such a simple one but it becomes clear that someone cares when they are there for you when you are most vulnerable. If you are unhappy and they are not showing empathy, offering you a hug or just being there for you it is a big red flag. If they are telling you that you are overreacting or judging you for it, this can be a sign that they are not the right person for you. Even if later you realise you weren’t being quite rational, they should be able to comfort you in that moment.
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