Finding the right partner can be a challenge in this modern world. In the days of previous generations it was a one-off event! People seemed to choose a person and stay together.
Here are some tips to help you find the right partner. Start your journey to everlasting love and happiness in your romantic life.
Look to your previous relationship and take the lessons from those.
Your previous partner choices can tell a lot about what your beliefs are and who your predisposed ideas can lead you to. Perhaps your fantasy for an exciting romance has lead you to people who offer excitement but not stability, aka players. Maybe you had a chaotic childhood and subconsciously seek stability. This could lead to a boring or dull relationship that is unfulfilling.
Your upbringing, society, family and friends may have given you deep rooted beliefs about what a relationship should be. This doesn’t mean that those belief are right or healthy. Use your knowledge of your past relationships and experiences to uncover which dating habits are due to those deep beliefs. Those beliefs although deep, aren’t necessarily going to serve you.
Look before you leap.
Don’t be fooled by the initial lust or honeymoon phase. This is typically an exciting and romantic time but that overwhelming feeling of chemistry is an altered state of physiology and emotions. Wait until this levels out before committing and deciding that they are your forever person.
Think about what your desired outcome of dating actually is.
If you are seeking a person instead or a relationship, it could be unhelpful in finding the right partner. Does your list of requirements consists of height, weight, hair colour etc? If you aren’t focused on finding a partnership then you could be misleading yourself. Seek experiences with somebody not just superficial qualities.
Walk away from those with incompatible values.
Don’t waste any more time on a person who has contrasting core values to you. Ask about these early on because once you are committed and have feelings for someone, it is much harder to leave. This causes relationship unfulfillment. Find out early on if they put family before career, whether they are introverted or extroverted, whether they want children or marriage or both.
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