When does a relationship get serious? Did your relationship get serious quickly just like Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s did?
One relationship which has been under the spotlight for a while is that of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. It is reported that their relationship went 0-60 quite quickly. So on this note, when is it too soon to get serious with a romantic interest?
Prince Harry and Megan Markle have stayed together through the trials and tribulations they have faced. It isn’t always easy to know whether to fight for that love and let it get more serious or call it quits.
How do you know that your relationship is becoming more serious?
In this modern world we live in, where people ‘hang out’ for months or are ‘just talking’ it can be hard to know where relationships are going. Are you exclusive? Are they committed to you?
A serious relationship is one where two people have agreed or committed to growing together. It can happen quickly as with Prince Harry and Meghan or it can happen more gradually, over the course of some years. The most important thing is that both people are invested in a mutual way.
That doesn’t mean that you have to be committed to each other or even exclusive (although this is a necessity for many!). It mostly needs to be that your needs are being met by one another. You continue being together and caring about each other. Usually, both parties are dedicated to growing together and want it to develop as time goes on. Whatever that may mean to the individual. Being on the same page is vital.
How else can you tell that your relationship is serious?
If you have dropped the formalities you know it is getting serious. This means that the initial feeling of wanting to impress has worn off and you are more likely being yourself on a deeper level, perhaps showing the not-so-nice things too.
Have you developed some kind of routine or ritual with your romantic partner? Perhaps he comes to yours every Wednesday evening. Maybe you spend every Saturday together going for a coffee date and walking your dog together. Maybe they have a pair of slippers or a toothbrush at your place now. These are all signs that your relationship may be getting serious.
But when should you call it quits instead of staying in a relationship?
If you feel your needs aren’t being met and the other person is truly not trying to meet them, this could be a reason to leave. This is especially so if you are seeking those needs elsewhere, outside of the relationship. This isn’t fair on either of you and it is a cause for concern about the longevity of the relationship happiness.
Have you been trying to find happiness in your relationship for more than a year? If it still feels unfulfilling or you are still unhappy a lot of the time, it could be time to call it a day. Just because you are with someone and have made a commitment at some point, it doesn’t mean you have to stay unhappy and unfulfilled forever more. Yes, give it a good chance and try all you can together to make it work. But don’t stay because you think you have to! Stay because you really want to.